I’ve come to a point where I am so sick and tired of seeing posts at forums about how someone likes/loves somebody else, and they have a boyfriend already or not or they don’t know if they should break up with him or her or not and whatnot.
Why are you asking complete strangers about your situation? There is no guarantee they’ll give the right advice! They only know your side of it and for all we know you might have serious realism-issues!
Mostly, I’m just fed up with it as it seems to be flooding the forums I go to and it’s always the same kids that keeps asking over and over again. You know the person is rather young when she starts the post with; “There’s this boy I like…”
No decent 20 year old is ever going to start a post like that referring to her beloved as ‘a boy’.
What happened to the women looking for love and needing advice on it? They keep it at their blogs or REAL friends, dammit!
Why does it bother me so much? I’m not sure. It has nothing to do with my own relationship with ShadowXP. We’re doing just fine. I have an okey relationship with my mother and I can actually have a conversation with my sister without spewing out hidden insults towards each other. (Amazing, I know.)
Mostly, I think it bothers me because these are people who aren’t interested in hearing our opinion. They want attention. They want to hear how right they are. They want to hear how well they handle situations, and how “mature” they seemingly solve things. The second you tell them otherwise, they’ll either tell you to fuck off and keep you opinions to yourself or how you don’t understand the whole picture. They’ll defend whoever you dared not speaking in favour of in the process and let you know what a narrow-minded cow they think you are for not getting it.
What is there to get?
These teenagers who post these love-rants are usually the ones who are in need of dire compliments, as you have pointed out. Some will even go through the trouble of faking drama just to get a little bit of “You’re doing the right thing” from 50-year old virgins on the net. Case in point: my friends. But I’ll save you from the horrors of that.
If they’re so much in love, they wouldn’t need any help from faceless creatures of a message board that they posted just to promote their site.
wow sorry for off topic but we have the same wp theme!!!!!!!
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I noticed that a lot. There’s younger lady at an art forum I visit and she always asking for advice from other board members. But she never takes their advice and 2 months down the road she’s once again asking for advice for the same or escalated situation!
I tend to leave those type of posts or individuals alone. I think they’re more interested into hearing themselves talk rather than getting advice.
Most of the time, their posts/rants contain the answer in themselves…they already know the solution and they are only seeking validation or as you put it, attention, from others.
I usually ignore such posts, because more often than not, they reek of immaturity and I really can’t afford to be sympathetic towards them so I keep quiet. It’s not worth my time. Or anyone else’s for that matter!
Gawd! I hate that too. I once ranted about it with my brother and he said just don’t read them. I mean, don’t they have real friends they can share this to? That’s why you don’t see me posting any rants on forums.
I guess they just need attention they don’t get in real life. How pathetic.
Ahahaha. I find it silly they ask for love advice. Replying to them is one of my not-many ways of keeping myself amused over the summer.
It must’ve become a trend, because I’ve seeing it around a lot. o_O Mwarhha.
Amen to that!
Yessss. Exactly what I was thinking. Though I don’t think it’s so much of a trend; I’ve seen people doing the same tedious thing over the years. You have problems arising when kids don’t realise that “love” is about the other person, not the relationship, and yet they are so ready to fling that word around. It is very attention seeking IMO.
I hear you, love. Amen to that.
V xx
p.s. Have done 90% of that p.nu theme. Just still ill with Bronchitis, so have barely been online this week. Will hopefully add it over the weekend if I get the chance.
I can’t stand anyone who asks online strangers for advice in real life relationships.
“I have a problem with my boyfriend. I know! I’ll ask the Internet!”